Observing Communication

This week we were asked to observe an adult and young child communicating in a real-world setting and reflect on the experience. For this assignment, I observed one of the toddler teachers, Mrs. Susie, and her interaction with the children in her classroom. Susie's classroom consists of 12 children, ages 2 - 2 1/2. She has a co-teacher that assists her during the day. Here is what I observed:

Ben and Alyssa, both two year olds in Mrs. Susie's class, were lined up outside, getting ready to come inside and wash their hands. Ben got restless and started pushing on Alyssa. Alyssa obviously did not like this and began pushing Ben back. They were going back and forth for a few seconds, pushing each other and squealing, when Mrs. Susie immediately intervened. Susie walked over to the children and took Ben's hand, leading him away from Alyssa so that he could not touch her. She squatted down to their level and spoke with both children, stating "pushing our friends is not okay because it could hurt them. If we put our hands on our friends, it should be to use gentle touches, like giving a hug. Ben, can you show me what a gentle touch looks like? Good job! Alyssa, can you show me what a gentle touch looks like? Great! Let's practice together, Ben, can you give Alyssa a gentle touch? Awesome! That is exactly the way we should touch our friends, through gentle touches. If someone is putting their hands on you and you don't like it, you should use your words and say "please stop - I don't like it!." Let's practice saying that. Great job Ben and Alyssa!"

Reflecting back on what I observed from Mrs. Susie, I can not think of one single thing that needs to be done differently. It is blatantly obvious that Susie is a master at what she does and using DAP language and techniques. Getting down on the children's level and explaining the situation were excellent. Having the children demonstrate what you expect of them and reinforcing it with praise, even better. I don't think that there is anything that Susie could have done to make the communication more effective. I am proud to have her as a teacher at my school.

Observing Susie at any given time is always a joy and educational for me as a young professional. It is very apparent that she is highly educated (she has a MA in family counseling and child development) and that she genuinely enjoys what she does. I feel that her communication with the children has positive affects on the children and helps to build up their sense of worth. She is constantly redirecting, modeling her expectations, and praising the children in her class. She celebrates little accomplishments and makes the children in her class feel important and special. She is an amazing teacher with superb communication skills. I constantly learn from her better ways of handling situations and often consult with her on situations that I find difficult. She is not only a teacher at my school, but she is a mentor for many.

Comparing my personal communication skills with children to that of Mrs. Susie, I can see that I do have some room for improvement. I sometimes do not show the level of patience that Susie has and try to always be mindful of that. I also strive to always maintain the constant, calming tone of voice that Susie displays. I am continually working on myself, trying to improve for the sake of the children that I work with every day.